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Friday, November 27th, 2009 | Author:

Forgiveness is one of the most important principles in the Christian Faith. I am saddened when I hear of the struggles some Christians have when they try to Forgive others. I hope this short Blog post can clear up any misconceptions you may have.

Forgiveness is simply making a choice. When someone has hurt you or wounded you, God commands us to forgive them. When the hurt or wound is very deep, we cannot forgive in our own power. God must accomplish this forgiveness in us.

When we forgive someone for a wrong they have done to us, it is like canceling a debt that was owed to us. We are making a choice to allow Jesus’ work on the cross to remove our hurts, wounds, judgments, bitterness, resentment and hatred. We are surrendering our right to be paid back for the sin committed against us. We decide to let God be the Judge and Jury. We wash our hands of trying to punish them for what they did and give the entire situation to God to handle as He wishes.


  1. We must make a choice to Forgive others. We must ask God to accomplish this work in our heart because we cannot forgive on our own. Forgiveness must be written on our hearts before it becomes a finished work in our lives.
  2. You must surrender your right to be paid back for the hurts against you. Release the person to God and let Him be the judge and jury. We must cancel the debt we believe the offender owes us and release them to God to be dealt with as He sees best.
  3. Ask God to heal your emotional hurts and pains and memories. Ask God to help you and strengthen you to renew your mind to forget the Pain of the Hurtful Memory. (We are not expected by God to forget the offense-we simply want release from the pain).

AS TIME PASSES, EVALUATE YOUR PROGRESS TO SEE IF YOU HAVE TRULY FORGIVEN THEM. (If you have any of the following symptoms—go back to God and forgive them again and again until the Forgiveness has been accomplished in you. Deep wounds and hurts may take some time. It is not always a one time prayer before Forgiveness is complete in us.)

  1.  Can you think of that person without having multiple flashback memories of what they did to you? Have you stopped rehearsing speeches you wanted to say to them?
  2. Do you no longer feel the need for revenge and no longer want to return evil for evil?
  3. Do you have strong emotional reactions when you see the person who hurt you?
  4. Can you honestly and sincerely ask God to bless this person and truly mean it with all your heart?


  1. Not Denying your anger toward the person or the hurt that you feel.
  2. Not Excusing the offender’s actions. He was wrong and it was sin and he is responsible to God for his sinful actions.
  3. Not Forgetting what happened. (God does not command us to forget, only to forgive)
  4. Forgiveness is not immediate trusting again. Trust must be earned. When trust is broken, the way to have it reestablished is through restitution. (Ex. In cases of abuse- it may not be wise to reconcile).

We must always remember  that to forgive someone else or even to forgive ourselves is our choice.

Sunday, November 15th, 2009 | Author:

My Red Hat Society group spent a few days at my Lake and Ministry House in October. We had a great time resting, relaxing, enjoying the view, cruising on the pontoon boat, napping in the hammock, and enjoying each others’ company.

Since we are a Christian Red Hat group, we also took this opportunity to have Bible study and prayer ministry. I am fortunate to have several ladies who are ministers in my club. Nellie Nelson did the majority of the teaching for this retreat.

Nellie and her husband, Gary, have been in ministry since 1986. They have served as Assistant Prison Chaplains in Wetumpka, Alabama for 6 years. They have also served as interim pastors of Grace Full Gospel Church. They are not currently pastoring a Church but they still do Christian ministry. Gary operates in the gifts of prophecy and helps. Nellie has the gift of teaching. Nellie was a registered nurse before she became a minister. She has always had a strong interest in Science. She combines her medical and scientific knowledge with her Christian knowledge to bring a very in-depth teaching. Her classes are for a deeper, more mature Christian audience.

Nellie’s topic for the Retreat was “Understanding Man.” Some of the highlights from her teaching were from the following scriptures:

Psalms 139: 14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are they works.

Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Nellie, told us that in recent years, scientists have calculated that if the electronic energy and the hydrogen atoms of your body could be utilized, you could supply all of the electrical needs for a large, highly industrialized country for several days. The atoms in our body contain the potential energy of more than 11 million kilowatt hours per pound. We are truly unique and valuable creatures.

Nellie stressed how powerful our spoken words are and how we must guard every word we speak. Proverbs 18:21 Life and death are in the power of the tongue. When we combine our Faith and Imagination with our spoken Words, we can accomplish almost anything.

We all learned so much during this retreat. Studying God’s word is important. Praying for each other is important. But the fellowship time was also very important. These 3 elements must be included in every Christian retreat.

Friday, November 06th, 2009 | Author:

The year that I turned 50 is when I decided to form a group of 20 ladies to join the Red Hat Society.  Most other chapters in the RHS are not Christian groups and you will see them out in public drinking, partying and gambling at casinos.  I decided that my Chapter would all be Christian women who knew how to have fun but also would be good ambassadors for Jesus Christ.

Front row left to right: Nita Gardner, Denise Lee, Dawn Ray.  Middle row: Bonnie Spittler, Diane Wood, Vicki Pattillo, Martha Van Natter, Jamie Williams.  Back row: Rhonda Kelly, Gail Thomas, Debra Michalke, Judy Newsome.

Front row left to right: Nita Gardner, Denise Lee, Dawn Ray. Middle row: Debra Michalke, Diane Wood, Vicki Pattillo, Martha Van Natter, Jamie Williams. Back row: Rhonda Kelly, Gail Thomas, Bonnie Spittler , Judy Newsom.

For those of you, who don’t know about the Red Hat Society, let me explain how I organized my group.  I invited 20 fine, Christian women to join together for a once a month activity or lunch or both.  The ladies over age 50 wear red hats and purple clothing.  The ladies under age 50 wear pink hats and lavender clothing.  This is strictly a “social club”.  Most of us ladies have already had a career, raised our children and done lots of community volunteer work.  We have decided that now it is time to start enjoying life and having a little fun.

Since one of the goals of my ministry is to help Christians build deeper relationships with other Christians, I knew the RHS would be a perfect way to get these relationships started.  To begin with, we all dress up in bright colors and wear gaudy, red hats and wear way too much jewelry.  These costumes make you feel silly and prepare you to laugh and have a great time.  God tells us in Proverbs 17:22 that “a merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dryeth up the bones”.

God wants us to laugh, and be happy, and have a good time.  God knows how our brains function.  He knows that laughter releases chemicals called endorphins that produce feelings of pleasure in our brain.  Being in a happier emotional state will also make your brain function better. 

Not only will laughter cause you to be healthier emotionally but it also makes you physically healthier.  It truly can work like a medicine in your body.

Many Christians have read Dr. Don Colbert’s book entitled, Deadly Emotions.  He explains in detail how our negative emotions such as fear, anger, worry, bitterness and resentment weaken our immune system and allow sickness and disease to come into our physical body.  The reverse is also true.  When you let God heal you of these negative emotions and you change them to more positive emotions and thoughts, then God can start healing you of your physical disease.  Laughter truly does work like a medicine for our brain and body. 

I remind my Red Hat Ladies often how our monthly get-togethers benefit us.  Not only are we creating deeper friendships with other Christian ladies, but our laughter is making us physically healthier and emotionally happier.

Left to right: Debra Michalke, Rhonda Kelly, Bonnie Spittler.

Left to right: Bonnie Spittler, Rhonda Kelly, Debra Michalke .

Left to right: Martha Van Natter (Royal Secretary) and Vicki Pattillo (The Queen Mother)

Left to right: Martha Van Natter (Royal Secretary) and Vicki Pattillo (The Queen Mother)