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Friday, December 04th, 2009 | Author:

There have been a few times in my adult life that I have been hurt and wounded so deeply by another person that it took me a long, long time to forgive them. I tried to follow the steps I taught you in last week’s blog post but my painful memories simply would not go away. I knew that the forgiveness had not been accomplished in me yet.

So, I dug in my heels and kept praying and making the choice to forgive every time the thought of that person popped into my head. I knew that the problem was with Me not being able to release the pain and give the entire situation to God to deal with as He wanted. I know that God heard my first prayer when I tried to choose to forgive. It was my STUBBORN HEART that kept hanging on to the offense.

What I decided to do was write out this prayer which includes all of the elements you need to have for the forgiveness to be accomplished within your heart. Every morning during my quiet time, I would pray this prayer, OUT LOUD, as earnestly as I possibly could.

All during the day when I would have a negative thought of that person or a flashback memory of what was said or done; I would raise my hand like I was testifying in court and say out loud, “I choose to forgive_____”. If I had to say this 30 times a day, I did not give up. I was determined to obey God and forgive this person no matter how long it took. I am embarrassed to say that it took me a full year to accomplish forgiveness in my heart.

If you are struggling to forgive someone who hurt you deeply, I challenge you to start with this prayer. God knows that you are trying to do your part by renewing your Mind and having the Mind of Christ. He knows that it takes time to rewire your Brain because He created your brain. God will strengthen you until the forgiveness is complete. Hang in there!!!


Dear God,

I have been deeply hurt and wounded by ___________________ (insert the name of the person who wounded you). I make the choice to forgive them. I ask you to take the bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness out of my heart. I cancel their debt to repay me and release them into your hands. I surrender the right to be paid back and trust you to be the Righteous Judge in this situation. I ask you to forgive me in the way I have sinned against them and you by being bitter and resentful and dwelling on negative thoughts of them. I ask you to heal me where I have been wounded mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Take away the painful memories and emotions attached to this situation and heal me totally. Give me the right spirit and attitude toward them. Help me to renew my mind and think like Jesus would toward this person. I realize I cannot forgive by myself. You must accomplish this in me as I repeatedly make the choice to forgive over and over. Lord, I am trusting you to help me to truly forgive _______________ and help me to renew my mind and heal me completely. Also, Lord, I ask you to bless them.

This is how I accomplished forgiveness in my life and I know if you put these steps I have given you into action, it will work for you too.